There are more than you might think. By
Charles C. W. Cooke is an editorial associate for
National Review
Announcing
the results of his long-term “evolution” on the subject last week, President
Obama revived the debate over gay marriage. In the widespread discussion,
however, there is one question that’s rarely asked: How interested are gay
couples in getting married?
Heretofore at least, the answer seems to be “not really.” Since 1997, when
Hawaii became the first state in the union to allow reciprocal-beneficiary
registration for same-sex couples, 19 states and the District of Columbia have
granted some form of legal recognition to the relationships of same-sex couples.
These variants include marriage, civil unions, domestic partnerships, and
reciprocal-beneficiary relationships; and the most recent U.S. Census data
reveal that, in the last 15 years, only 150,000 same-sex couples have elected to
take advantage of them — equivalent to around one in five of the self-identified
same-sex couples in the United States. This number does not appear to be low
because of the fact that only a few states have allowed full “marriage”; indeed,
in the first four years when gay marriage was an option in trailblazing
Massachusetts, there were an average of only about 3,000 per year, and that
number included many who came from out of state.
This dearth of early adopters is not peculiar to America. Research conducted in
2004 by Gunnar Anderson, a professor of demography at Sweden’s Stockholm
University, seems to confirm the trend. Anderson looked at legal partnerships in
both Norway and Sweden and found that in Norway, which legalized civil unions in
1993, only 1,300 homosexual couples registered in the first eight years,
compared with 190,000 heterosexual marriages; in Sweden, between initial passage
in 1995 and a review in 2002, 1,526 legal partnerships were registered, compared
with 280,000 heterosexual marriages. In the Netherlands, gay marriage is
actually declining in popularity: 2,500 gay couples married in 2001 — the year
it was legalized — and that number dropped to 1,800 in 2002, 1,200 in 2004, and
1,100 in 2005. In 2009, the last year for which figures are available, less than
2 percent of marriages in the Netherlands were between same-sex couples.
Controlling for the ratio of homosexuals to heterosexuals does little to
explain the enthusiasm gap. For rates to be similar, we would have to pretend
that only 0.5 percent of the population of Sweden, 0.7 percent of the population
of Norway, and less than 2 percent of the population of Holland is gay. In fact,
the numbers tend closer to an average of 4 percent, which suggests that
heterosexual couples are up to eight times more interested in registering their
relationships than homosexual couples. It is, of course, possible that the
estimated number of homosexuals is wrong, but, if anything, gay-rights groups
tend to argue that the projected numbers are too low, and statistics show that
the numbers of self-identified gay citizens are going up in every Western
country.
Enthusiasm for marriage is somewhat lopsided by gender. Divorces, too.
According to UCLA’s Williams Institute, two-thirds of legally recognized
same-sex couples in the United States are lesbian. (Solely on the “marriage”
front, in Massachusetts’s first four years, this statistic was 62 percent.)
While data in the United States are clearly limited, Scandinavian countries have
been at this a little longer. Denmark was the first country to introduce
recognition of same-sex partnerships, coining the term “registered partnership”
in 1989. Norway followed suit in 1993, and then Sweden in 1995. Again, Stockholm
University’s study seems to confirm the American trend. In Norway, male same-sex
marriages are 50 percent more likely to end in divorce than heterosexual
marriages, and female same-sex marriages are an astonishing 167 percent more
likely to be dissolved. In Sweden, the divorce risk for male-male partnerships
is 50 percent higher than for heterosexual marriages, and the divorce risk for
female partnerships is nearly double that for men. This should not be
surprising: In the United States, women request approximately two-thirds of
divorces in all forms of relationships — and have done so since the start of the
19th century — so it reasonably follows that relationships in which both
partners are women are more likely to include someone who wishes to exit.
The debate over marriage does not necessarily hinge on its popularity among
the eligible, and advocates of gay unions would no doubt assert that “equality”
is not a numerical proposition as quickly as their opponents would aver that the
very idea is a hopeless category mistake. But it is nonetheless worth noting
that there is no particular groundswell — even in states and cities that have
both legal gay marriage and significant numbers of homosexuals — and that, when
gay couples do decide to get married, they are more likely than their straight
equivalents to change their minds later.
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